Sometimes platonic friendship is a disguised romance and could even start as lust for something physical not spiritual.
Most American Christian Singles are simply in love with the idea of falling in love that they may not want to accept this element of lust in love or platonic friendship.
Much recently I came across a very pretty story where there’s this young African-Christian girl, in the first blush of love who wants to know from her Grandparent what exactly is it like to be in love. “Granny,” she begins, “what’s it like to be in love? Oh Granma, won’t you tell me, what’s it like to be in love? Is it the way my face gets red every time he looks at me? Is this the way that love feels? Why do I suddenly want to wear lipstick and perfume? Do you think he’ll notice me? Mama, help me with my hair. It has to be perfect today. ..” There’s no doubt about it. Falling in love is the most delicious feeling in the world. People in love sometimes say, “I was swept off my feet.” And that’s true. In the beginning specially, being in love makes you feel as if you’re walking on air. It’s difficult to decide whether what you feel right then is just a soft corner, an irresistible crush you’ve developed or whether it’s the real thing. Almost always Love begins with a sneaking attraction, an unknowing awakening of Lust. In a short while something a little more potent - romantic passion comes into play. It’s just so impossible to think rationally at this time. Every thing about the object of our desire is so blooming fantastic. The eyes, the voice, the walk, the talk, God, even the anger part of it all. You can’t bear it if anyone finds fault with your heartthrob. Your heart tells you the world is jealous of you and your love.
The next stage of love, that is attachment, is generally entered into quite involuntarily. The phone and every gadget of communication is depended upon to keep you in touch. 24 hours seem insufficient now. The moments you spend with each other are swiftly borne away on the wings of time. This is what the world calls the magic of love which brings in its wake a flurry of strange feelings triggered by the sudden release of chemicals racing in your body and mind. The racing heart, the flushed skin and sudden spurts of excitement, researchers say are due to the presence of two primary chemicals – dopamine, which produces a feeling of bliss and nor epinephrine, similar to adrenaline. But over time, with the dwindling of the elation producing chemicals, the feelings of passionate love lose their strength. Suddenly the blinkers come off. Flaws hitherto not visible become clear. This is that critical stage which will determine whether the relationship will advance, endure or end. If you’ve successfully weathered the vagaries of romantic love and got onto the higher plane called true love, you will find that while there is still a lot of pleasure that your loved one gives, the butterflies in the stomach have given way to a happy feeling in the heart. You experience a certain sense of joy when the one you love is happy. You seek to ply him or her with gifts and comforts. You love seeing that special smile on his face.
Next, comes the sense of belonging and ownership. You feel proud of each other and are not averse to showing the world how much you love each other. A girl while referring to her boyfriend may say, “my guy” or “my friend” with that unmistakable look of possessiveness. Your partner soon assumes the status of family even without official sanction. A lot of caring and sharing happens now. All that concerns you begins to concern your partner as well. Your life, as far as this wonderful person is concerned, is an open book. You begin to pour out your heart and its little secrets. No one has more power over you now than your partner. You are still entranced enough never to feel the slightest trace of boredom in his or her company. Soon he or she becomes the most important person in your life. And thus begins the new chapter of your life. Commitment is about to seal your fate!
This is this natural element of lust in every love or friendship between opposite sexes disguised or not, platonic or not, because that’s human makeup from Creation. And its wrong for American Christian singles to deny that in grandiosity.
Amero Manuells [contributed]
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